How to cut cords

In my work in the Reiki room, in my work in the teaching space, and in my life in general, I find myself talking with more and more people about cutting cords.

What are etheric cords?

Etheric cords are formed every time we connect with people. We have cords with our parents, our siblings, our friends, our teachers, our colleagues and our partners. We may also have cords with our students, our clients, our patients, and with other people we meet. Cords form without our conscious awareness. We do not intentionally create them. Cords form when we want to control someone, or when we want to help someone. When we want to control someone, it is via the cord that we energetically (and often unconsciously) manipulate them. When we want to help someone, it is via the cord that we energetically (an often inadvertently) send them energy that we have to spare (or in some cases that we pull from our reserves of energy and share with them).

Cords can form anywhere on our physical and etheric bodies. They are often attached to our chakras, our energetic centres. Cords are often found at the level of the heart chakra and at the level of the solar plexus chakra. The heart chakra is the centre of love, and the solar plexus is the centre of power. You may have noticed in yourself or in others that sometimes we can feel drained energetically because we allow too much of our love to be given away, or we can feel exhausted because we hand over all our personal power to someone else.

Why are etheric cords a problem?

If you are feeling tired for no reason, you might be being drained of all your energy via an etheric cord. If you feel angry for no reason, you might be processing the anger of someone else via an etheric cord. If you feel inexplicably sad or anxious, that emotion may not be yours, it may belong to someone else who is shunting it onto you via an etheric cord.

Etheric cords bind you to people in your present and your past, and not in a good way. They prevent both of you from moving on, and often they stop you from achieving your life’s mission. The cords can be connected with people who are still alive, but who are no longer part of your life… and they can be connected with people who have passed over, but who cannot or will not let go of you.

For your sake and for the sake of the other person, cords need to be cut. Both of you are freed, and both of you can then begin living according to your Highest Good.

How do you cut etheric cords?

There are many ways to cut etheric cords.

  • You can cut cords with the help of  Archangels
  • You can cut cords with the help of Sage or Flower Essences
  • You can cut cords with the help of Sacred Sound

Cutting cords with the help of Archangels

The way I usually cut cords, when I find them attached to myself or when I see them attached to my Reiki clients, is to simply ask Archangel Michael to cut the negative etheric cord. He will then, with his Sword of Light, cut the cord, and return each part of the cord to its owner (or simply take the remnants of the cord to the Light – I leave this up to Archangel Michael to decide). I often then ask Archangel Raphael to then heal the wound in the aura that the cord caused.

Cutting cords with Sage, or Flower Essences

Sometimes, I smudge with sage smoke, or I use Flower Essences to help cut cords.

You are welcome to read my blog post about Cleansing and Clearing for more information on these.

Cutting cords with sacred sound

At other times, I use a practice a friend shared with me. She learned it from Sonia Choquette. My apologies if anything has been lost in translation … but this is how I remember it.

  1. Using my arms as if they were the blades of scissors (or swords), I raise my arms and then quickly slice the air in front of my body – my arms travel from high above my shoulders diagonally across my body to each opposite hip (right hand to left hip, and left hand to right hip, simultaneously), as if cutting the cords with my forearms and hands.
  2. At the same time as my arms cross in front of me, I say the words ‘Sa Hept Nah’. Loudly.

By bringing the arms down and across the body, you slice through the energetic space in front of each chakra – physically, energetically, and symbolically cutting any cords that were attached to any chakra.

The words Sa Hept Nah to me feel like they come from Ancient Egypt. I sense they are sacred sounds, that clear the space in which they are spoken.

Cutting cords with Love

Love is the most powerful force in the Universe. Whenever you cut cords, remember to stay in a Heartspace of Love.

What if the cord comes back?

Often, after cutting cords you will receive a phone call, or an email, or a message on social media, or even a visit from the person who the cord was attached to. Even if that person is not psychic or intuitive, they will feel the absence of the cord, and they may try to reestablish it. If the cord is re-established, simply cut it again as soon as you are aware of it.

If the cord is with a non-physical being, and the cord returns, it could be because there is some lesson you need to learn. Check in with your intuition, sense into what that may be, and then cut the cord again when you feel the time is right.

Getting help with cord cutting

Sometimes there are cords we cannot cut ourselves. Whenever this happens to me, I visit my Reiki Practitioner, my Kinesiologist, my Spiritual Healer, or my Lomi Lomi massage therapist. There are many more healing modalities that are also capable of cutting cords and clearing negative energy from your being.

Check for cords often, and cut them whenever you find them

Remember that your energy is sacred. You do not need to share it with anyone without your consciousness being aware of it. You are entitled to keep all of your energy for you, and only give away what you choose to, from energy you have spare, to people you love. No one has the right to drain you. No one has the right to dump their negative energetic garbage in your energetic body. Take a stand, cut cords, and reclaim every part of your energetic being. You will feel so much better for it!


Cleansing and clearing

Have you ever felt drained, tired or exhausted for no reason?
Have you ever walked into a room and felt uncomfortable, but not known why?
Sometimes we, or the spaces we live and work in, inadvertently and unknowingly hold negative energies. Negative energies often arise after arguments and disagreements. Stress and trauma can also leave a negative impression on our energy and on the energy in the space around us.

Cleansing and clearing ourselves and the spaces we love is easy! There are lots of ways you can do this. Here are a few of my favourites…


Sage smoke has been used for centuries by the Native Americans to cleanse and clear the energy of people and the energy of a space.
Smudge sticks are made of dried sage, bundled together. I use them whenever I need to smudge a space.
Recently I have discovered that dried sage is also available in loose leaves. I have been experimenting with using a single leaf when I only need to smudge myself,and I am finding it is economical and works just as well.

So, how do I go about cleansing and clearing with sage?

When I need to cleanse my aura/energy, I light a candle, and then I say a prayer asking God/Great Spirit, my Guardian Angels, Angels, Archangels,my Ancestors and my Spirit Animals to help me and protect me… (and if you aren’t OK with calling on of any of the Benevolent Spirit Beings I have mentioned here, please say a prayer to whomever you would normally call on for spiritual assistance)

I then light the sage smudge stick, and when it is smoking (i.e. when the flames are gone, this only takes a moment, usually) I use a large feather – like a turkey feather, or my hand, to carefully guide the smoke all around me, beginning at my head and working down my body. All the while I ask God/Benevolent Spirit Beings that I be cleared of any negative energy.

When I smudge a space, I close all the doors and windows. Then, beginning in the East, I move into each room, and feather the smoke into each of the four corners, then I move around the space in the following direction – South, West, then North, going into each room (and sometimes even each cupboard and wardrobe) feathering the smoke into all four corners of the space. Again while doing this I ask God/Benevolent Spirit Beings to clear the space of any negative energy.

When I am finished, I carefully put out the smudge stick by pressing it firmly into some sand. When that is done I open all the doors and windows, and I thank God/Benevolent Spirit Beings for all of their help and assistance. I then blow out the candle.

There’s a lot on the internet about smudge sticks, I invite you to read more about smudging before you try it.

Smudge stick


You can use sound to clear a space too. Tibetan bowls help to clear negative energies while simultaneously attracting positive energies.

Sound the bowl in each corner of the space and allow the vibration to completely dissipate before moving to the next corner.

Tibetan singing bowl


Clearing Sprays can be fantastic too – these combine water, essential oils, crystals, and flower essences in a spray bottle – you just spritz it around yourself and around the room. I use these sprays myself, both at home and in my clinic.

My Reiki teacher has a lovely one available for sale. Click here for more information.

Or if you prefer, the Australian Bush Flower Essence “Space Clearing Essence Mist” (from most health food stores, or online) is fantastic too. Click here for more information.


Also placing crystals helps to cleanse and clear a space. I love Black Obsidian. Black Obsidian is said to help release negative emotions, and to protect you from negativity.

Black tourmaline would also be an excellent crystal to have around. It is believed to remove negative energies, and protect against negative energies and stress. It encourages happiness, good luck and positive attitudes. It is also said to be purifying and healing.

It is good to cleanse your crystals regularly, in fresh rain water or in salt … and re-energise them by placing them in the light of the full moon.


These lamps emit negative ions which bind to positive ions (emitted by electromagnetic technology – tvs, computers, mobile phones etc). Indoor areas tend to be low in negative ions, whereas mountain air and sea air are high in negative ions. It is said that people tend to feel healthier and suffer from less fatigue and fewer headaches when the air is rich with negative ions.

Salt lamp


If you have been attuned to Reiki, you can use Reiki to help clear and cleanse a space.

Draw the Reiki symbols in the air of each corner of the room you are cleansing and clearing. Remember to also draw the symbols in the air at each door and window. This dissipates the negative energy, and fills the space with beautiful, healing Reiki energy.


I hope that some of these ideas resonate with you. I invite you to try these techniques, see how you feel…and let me know how you go!