Releasing the past…

My heart is aching. I’ve recently been through a relationship breakup, and I am still struggling…

I’ve been through denial, I’ve been through anger, I’m moving through sadness, but I seem to be really struggling with the bargaining stage of grieving. In my mind I keep remembering the wonderful times. I think back to what I have lost, and I wonder, what if everything had worked out differently. What could I have done differently? What could he have done differently? How could we have made it work?

Totally normal grieving…

I allowed myself some time to experience the depths of the sorrow… Day after day, these thoughts would rise to torment me…

This morning I decided it was time for a remedy.

I reached for  the Bach Flower Remedy ~ Honeysuckle. 

Honeysuckle helps us release our obsessive connection with the past, helps us remember the blessings and the love, helps us begin to see the beauty and blessings that are all around us in the present moment, and helps us ground fully in the Now.

As soon as taking a dose, the most amazing realisations occurred:

You see, I have three sets of Bach Flower Remedies. One set is for patients, one set is brand new remedies for when I run out of remedies for patients, and one set is of out-of-date remedies that I use for myself. Yep, I take the ones that are old. Really old. With expiry dates pre-2011! Because I don’t like to waste remedies. And because I don’t want to use the ‘good’ ones just for me. As I stood there, I realised so many things. I understood that by not giving myself the same respect (and remedies) that I give my patients, I am not valuing myself. I got a glimpse at my overwhelming sense of unworthiness. I began to tip out and throw away all the bottles of out of date remedies. I decided to start valuing myself.

And, what of those thoughts that were troubling me? I realised that the relationship had also passed its use-by date. It was time to let it go. Those thoughts of ‘what if’ have completely gone, and I am now grounded in the knowledge that everything is working out perfectly, for both of us, and for the Highest Good of All.

Are you struggling with grief? Do you feel as though the past is a more beautiful place than the present? Do you wish you could return to times past? Maybe some Honeysuckle could help you too…

You have suffered enough. There are remedies that can help you release your pain.
Click here to contact Andrea and book a consultation. 


  1. I wish you strength and courage and patience at this time Andrea. Have you ever read the beautiful poem called One Art by Elizabeth Bishop?

    One Art

    By Elizabeth Bishop

    The art of losing isn’t hard to master;
    so many things seem filled with the intent
    to be lost that their loss is no disaster.

    Lose something every day. Accept the fluster
    of lost door keys, the hour badly spent.
    The art of losing isn’t hard to master.

    Then practice losing farther, losing faster:
    places, and names, and where it was you meant
    to travel. None of these will bring disaster.

    I lost my mother’s watch. And look! my last, or
    next-to-last, of three loved houses went.
    The art of losing isn’t hard to master.

    I lost two cities, lovely ones. And, vaster,
    some realms I owned, two rivers, a continent.
    I miss them, but it wasn’t a disaster.

    —Even losing you (the joking voice, a gesture
    I love) I shan’t have lied. It’s evident
    the art of losing’s not too hard to master
    though it may look like (Write it!) like disaster.

    1. Your words and the poem you have shared with me are sublimely beautiful. Thank you. I offer you my heartfelt gratitude. ❤

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