Let’s face it, we’ve all said things in anger…
Things we wish we could undo…
Thoughtless words, uncaring comments, bitchy rants…
There are many reasons why we might speak like this.
Sometimes, it is because we have tolerated the intolerable for far too long…
Other times, it is because we have been provoked beyond the limit of our limits…
However, the regret we feel is usually enormous.
What can we do?
If we find we are speaking out unkindly, we can turn to Bach Flower Remedies to help us return to a state of inner balance, and then from this space we can choose to have a productive conversation that resolves, rather than inflames, issues.
In The Bach Remedies Repertory, by F.J. Wheeler, there are a number of remedies listed under the rubric ‘Bitchiness’
To these, I would like to add
- Cherry Plum
Holly may help you move from being hard hearted to feeling generous. Holly may help you open to receiving Unlimited Unconditional Love. From this space Holly may help transform your suspicion, envy, jealousy, and rage into inner harmony, warmheartedness and goodwill.
When you are bitching, do you whine? Do you feel as though you are not receiving what you deserve? Do you ever say things like ‘After everything I have done for them, this is how they treat me!’ Are you loving and caring, and do you want similar affection from the people you love and care about? Chicory is for when you are feeling like you are giving more than you are receiving. Chicory may help you move away from feeling like others owe you because you have been generous with them in the past. Chicory may help you be more unconditional in the way that you share your time and energy. Chicory may help you shift from being selfish, needy and demanding, to being independent and unaffected by the apparent inconsiderateness of others.
Does every little thing about someone or something bug you? Are you having trouble seeing past their inadequacies and failings? Do you find yourself criticizing them constantly? Can you not even stand to look at them?
The Bach Flower Remedy Beech may help you tolerate the things that right now, seem intolerable. It will help you see the good qualities that people and situations possess, that previously were hiding behind their seemingly glaring faults.
Beech may help you release your tendency to be critical, as you open your heart and mind to understanding the context of others’ lives and situations.
Would you agree that when you are in a bitchy mood you are less in control of your thoughts, words and actions? Your filter between thinking and speaking seems to be missing, as you blurt out unkind thoughts that may or may not always be what you mean… The Bach Flower remedy Cherry Plum may help you centre in your truth, and may help restore the filter between thoughts and words.
Whether your bitching is a momentary, recent, temporary event, or whether you have always been prone to it, Bach Flower Remedies may help you find a sense of balance and transform your communications into more constructive and helpful conversations…